What were the messages- subtle or in your face- you received about your body, sensuality and sexuality growing up? โฆ and before thatโฆ your mom, grandma, women all over?
The TRUTH: because you are a woman you are definitely and without discussion the Temptress, the Issue, guilty. Because you are beautiful and magnetic and sensual by Nature you automatically seduce men and that makes you the bad guilty one! Even if you just walk around carefreeโฆ let alone if you wear โprovocativeโ clothes! God forbid that cleavage, that short skirt or who knows what that reveals your body. That makes you the guilty one if men treat you poorly.
It is your fault if you are abused, mocked, humiliated! How dare you be a Woman?! And embody your sexual power and magnetic energy?!!! Donโt you know that is Bad? And makes men helpless – canโt hold themselves responsible?
Tสษชs IS แดสแด แดษดแด
แดสสสษชษดษข MESSAGE แดกแด ษขแดแด! From the patriarchal and religious point of view!
Since Eve was already put in that box – the one that led all into sin (as if Adam was 11 and couldnโt say Noโ) ALL women are guilty! And this SHADOW living in the basement of our society, men, religion and even women is Stinky and Gross but so real!
๏ฟฝsoโฆ as a girl- especially if there is a christian (not only) background I am expected to behave, to not wear jewels, to put on only covering the entire body clothes, no make upโฆ nothing to Enhance my bad- seductress- evil side! Nothing to allow me to be aware , proud and free in my body, connected with my Sexual Energy. And that- to not tempt the men! โWomen!!! Keep in your lane and do not dare show your beauty and sexiness as we are but mere mortal with no will, integrity, moralsโ
I am fully letting Lilith Speak Up the TRUTH! It is Leo new moon with Lilith so present!
Do you remember any moments , contexts in your childhood and teens when you were feeling awkward, ashamed, guilty for your looks, body, sensual expression?
How has that rippled and been carried on as an adult woman?
I for once have been seen and treated as the guilty one in all contexts involving men. From the get go. Me being aware and embodying my se*ual energy was a big NO wrapped up in shame and anger.
So I have learnt during multiple years that I am wrong, bad for wanting pleasure or for being magnetic, for just showing myself as a woman. I have learnt that se*uality is bad for a woman to express but ok for men and in any circumstances she is the guilty one.
It makes my stomach turn thinking of those comments (from women too- as the patriarchal sexist gaze was internalized) : โshe is a slut, she provoked him, she shouldnโt dress like that!โ Again! Like the man involved has NO will, morals, restraint and integrity and he is absolved of all of his heinous actions!
This is a SERIOUS topic and BIG shadow we need to expose, recognize and work with towards acceptance and alchemy.
๐๐๐๐จ ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐จ ๐ข๐ ๐๐จ ๐ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ ๐จ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฉ ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ, repress and reject the Sensual Seductress, embodied Magnetic Woman in me and this is how Shadow is created- split parts disowned and sent into the basement!
I turn into the repressed, judgy, anxious woman that sees sexuality something to be ashamed of, closed off, ashamed of her body and all things pleasurable and sensual.
I become my OWN internalized Patriarchal- Abuser: โbe ashamed of ur body! Donโt wear that – its too slutty, shut up and take it – its your duty!โ and soooo on do forth – you get it!
I am sure you also have this voice inside of you!
There is also a stage or the possibility you turn into the full on Shadow Seductress to punish men. You attract them through sexual games and use that as power having ur heart closed off and devouring their energy, leaving them after a one night stand or after they fall in love with you.
All the wounding this paradigm created- unbelievable strong!!!
Nowadays – se*ual content sells, women are se*ualized everywhere , the P@rn industry thrives AND in the same time Powerful, Sensual embodied women are villified, judged, shamed! In the same time this Shadow of โyou are sinful, guilty if seducing menโ is soooo present and a message as well.
So we are fed the same thing in different ways.
We want women to be slu tty and give us their bodies buuut wait! ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃโ๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ ๐๐ฌ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐ค๐ช๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐*๐ช๐๐ก ๐๐ค๐ฌ๐๐ง ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐ง๐๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐ค๐ช๐จ
It is time to look deep inside into our shadow: rage, shame, guilt, fear around se*uality and freely expressing ourselves as women; around men and all the historical stories.
It is ok to recognize the deep Feelings you have and let them out- process them and give all the parts in you Space to be seen and Heard!
๐๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ธ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐๐ผ๐น๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ and Programming that keep us disconected from our vital force (se*ual energy) and Embody it, live Freely and Owning our power, beauty, magic in a conscious way!
๐๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ผ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ต๐ถ๐ฝ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ ๐๐ก and toxic masculinity that also lives inside of us! With our dads and masculine lineages! And also with our Bodies!
This requires a lot of ๐ฎ๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐น๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ง๐ฟ๐๐๐ต ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐, to embrace the emotions trapped and rejected and deemed โbadโ. It takes courage to speak up and to invite your Shadows out to the table giving it space, time, acceptance and integrating it.
This is a process. A necessary one for you as a WOMAN to become WHOLE again and not live in split parts hating and abusing yourself and your peers. This means ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐ฎ๐น๐น ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ถ๐น๐ฒ๐ป๐๐น๐ that put you down for who you are, free yourself from guilt and shame and also anger and fear!
So you can be reborn and wear your Crown!
So you can pass a different inheritance to your daughters!
So you can live your life in peace with yourself, in harmony, feeling empowered, safe, beautiful and Whole!
This is an invitation.
Feel it. Deeply.
If you are ๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐ฆ I am here to hold and guide. I love TRUTH and I am an Expert in Shadow Work!
Iโve done it for soo long with myself and hundrends of clients already!
I am all for Empowering you as a Woman, Creatrix, Magician, Queen that you Are! You diserve the best life and the best relationship with yourself first!
I am a message away!
(pic by Piotr Topolski)